Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Throwing Chairs Again

So V's school called me today... again.

It went a little something like this:

School: "Hello V's guardian?"
Me: "Yes?"
School: "I am so and so, in for the principal, she is out today.  I have V here in the principal's office."
Me: "yes?"
School: "She became angry today and began throwing chairs and crayons.  I know this happened before, and she just recently returned to us from time off for it.  What V?  (I hear her in the background).  Oh?  OK.  V wants you to know that she wasn't throwing crayons.  She only threw chairs.  She wants you to know that."
Me: "OK", thinking that's my girl....
School: "Mrs. W asked V to put her book up, and V became angry, it was a transition time."
Me: thinking finally... someone who understands and is willing to listen, and willing to see that my kid doesn't snap for no reason.  there is always a reason.
School: "So anyway, V is here, and I am not sure what to do."
Me: "I have been in communication with the school psych about V's issues, and am doing all in my power to help her.  Could you contact the school psych?"
School: "I don't know what her hours are, but I sure could try."
Me: "I know she is there on Monday and Wednesday."  Today is Wednesday... SCORE.
School: "Yes.  I will try to get a note to her.  Then I will get back with you.  Thank you for being such a big help!"  Yes.  She said that to me....  Honest to goodness.
Me: "You are welcome, and thank you.  Have a great day."

Seriously.  I am not kidding.  I gave them no window of "can you come get your unruly child".  Nothing.  She weighs 56 lbs.  How hard is it to sit her in the hallway and say, "You will not act like this in my classroom."  Remove her from the situation.  If there are no chairs around her.. SHE CAN'T THROW THEM.

Twenty minutes later....
RING RING (on my work line mind you....)
School: "Hi.  This is school psych.  We spoke last week"
Me: "Hi!"
School: "Mrs W. didn't get the e-mail I sent her.  Her e-mail wasn't functioning properly"
Me: thinking gee... she told me on Monday she had something on her desk from you.  I know you are a busy lady and split between schools, but I have been asking you for help for two weeks now.  I signed all the papers you needed..... as soon as you e-mailed them to me....
School: "Her e-mail is working fine now, and she has received the paperwork I sent to request the behavior specialist to come to the classroom.  In the interim while we get this set up, would you like to have a Care Plan meeting?"
Me: "yes.  I will do whatever it takes to help V be successful."
School: "OK Mrs. W's planning period is at 9:45.  I remember that you work.... so that would be difficult for you... Hmmmm."
Me: "I will work it out so I can be on lunch at 9:45am.  This is very important to me."
School: "Are you sure?  OK.  Then how about next Weds at 9:45a?"
Me: "I will be there."
School: "OK.  See you then."
Me: "Yes.  Thank you."


A care plan meeting.  And it only took a couple of thrown chairs... 

So when I got home from work, we had a talk with V.  I told her that from now on, I want her to count to 10 when she feels like she is getting angry.  I am going to drill this into her head.  I am going to make her count to 10 every time she seems like she is getting angry here at home.  I am going to tell Mrs. W. that I am drilling it into her head, and she has my explicit permission to continue encouraging it at school.  I am going to make counting to 10 when you're angry fun, and giggle and laugh and say, "See!   Don't you feel better now?" when she's done. 

I called the day therapy program today.  M and I decided it's time to enroll her.  I am excited and scared, and nervous all at the same time.  Just so much going on.  V is an amazing, funny, compassionate, and brilliant child.  I REFUSE to let her slip through the cracks.  If I have to start being mean and playing hard ball so be it.  I will not let us be bullied by these people.  I am done. 

DQ is doing AMAZING with her reading.  I am so very proud of her.  She was such a good girl today that M and I let her stay up an extra half an hour and watch her favorite show.  She just did so many things right, we couldn't let it go UN-rewarded.  DQ is also growing by leaps and bounds in her dancing.

I have volunteered to be the Booster Parent for the dance company.  I want to make sure we have plenty of fundraisers so I can afford competition dance.  If this is DQ's dream, I am going to make it reality.  I have a bunch of fundraisers planned, and I am putting them into motion as we speak.  I am really excited as well about them.  I can't wait to see how they do, and how things pan out.

I will be doing a Color Run on Saturday.  I am excited about this!  I may post photos... if I figure I don't look too unflattering in them....  LOL. 

P.S.  Promised photo of V's new earrings!  She's wearing the newsboy cap I made her too!!!  Sewing rocks.


Aunt TT

No comments:

Post a Comment